Battery Down! by Dr. Jyoti Hegde

Parents and teachers can use this short story to encourage children to eat healthy meals on time.
 
Once there was a boy named Rahul. He had developed a bad habit. He would skip breakfast and also not eat his tiffin at school. This started affecting his health. He could not concentrate in class and also didn't feel like playing due to lack of energy. He started falling sick repeatedly and could not attend school regularly. 

One day Rahul was down with a fever. As he was lying on his bed, he heard a groan, "aah." As he was alone in the room Rahul thought, "who could it be?" Again came the voice, "I'm feeling hungry, please feed me." "Who is it?" he asked. "My master doesn't provide me any good food, and expects me to work throughout the day? Is it fair?" the voice complained. Rahul replied, "Oh no, not at all. That's very mean, but, who are you and who is your master?"  "I am your body and you are my master, and you don't give me nutritious food on time", groaned the voice. "My body? And how do you say I don't feed you? I do have lunch and dinner." defended Rahul. His body continued, "In the morning, when I need to use my energy the most, you don’t give me any food. I have to wait till afternoon and it’s only thanks to your mom who forces you to eat rice, rotis, vegetables, dal, eggs, chicken, fish and other healthy foods that I am able to survive. It is very strange to see that you kids don't forget to charge your tablet's battery on time, but you’ll take the battery of your body for granted. I too need to be charged frequently, with a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner and a light snack like a delicious fruit in between meals, to make up for the energy that is drained from me." Rahul was shocked to hear this from his body. He had not realised that his body too needed to be charged regularly with nutritious food." He promised his body that he will have his three meals on time and also have a healthy snack in between meals.

​Rahul recovered fast from his illness and became a healthy and happy kid once again. Now he remembers to keep his body charged with healthy food.

​DARE to Answer! by Dr. Jyoti Hegde

Parents and teachers can use this short story to encourage children to answer questions in class.

There were two friends, Riya and Siya. Siya was a confident girl while Riya was shy. Both would study together and were sincere and hardworking.
In school, Siya would speak to her teachers and answer any question that was asked in class. Riya would not attempt to answer any questions. Due to this, she would get a scolding from her teacher. Siya was a good friend and wanted to help Riya. She asked Riya, "Riya, why don't you answer when the teacher asks questions in class? Don't you know the answer? Do you feel scared of the teacher? Do you feel all will laugh at you if your answer is wrong? Do you feel the teacher will ask you further questions and then you may not be able to answer those questions?" Riya replied, "Oh Siya! I do know the answers most of the time just like you as we study together regularly. But I get scared to stand up and speak in front of all. I feel nervous and get butterflies in my stomach. So I avoid answering. Please help me." Siya replied, "Riya, I will try to help you overcome your fear. I will share a technique which helped me speak more confidently in class. You have to just use the DARE method." Riya asked, "What is the DARE method?" Siya explained, "When the teacher asks a question, the first step is Decide that you will answer. The second step is Arrange the answer in your mind. The third step is Raise your hand and the fourth step is Express yourself clearly and loudly." Riya was very happy. She agreed to try out the DARE method the very next day for the general knowledge quiz as she had prepared thoroughly for the quiz.
The next day in class, the teacher asked in the quiz, "Which is the national bird of India?" Riya Decided she will answer. She quickly Arranged the answer in her mind and then Raised her hand. The teacher was happy to give her a chance. Riya Expressed herself clearly and loudly. "It's the Peacock!" All clapped for her correct answer. Riya felt as proud as a peacock. 
 
From that day, there was no turning back for Riya. Now, she not only answers questions herself but also encourages others to DARE to answer questions in class!

A Tale of a Tongue by Jyoti Hegde

Parents and teachers can use this short story to encourage children to speak up and improve social skills.

​Once there lived a girl named Tina. She was knowledgeable but shy. She felt comfortable to speak to only her family members and one or two friends at school. When her parents would introduce her to anyone, or even if she met someone she knew, she would neither greet that person nor speak anything. Tina's parents kept encouraging her to speak to others but she never listened. In school too, Tina would not respond to questions asked by her teacher, despite knowing the answers. Her tongue was very upset with her as she was not making good use of it.
One day, Tina had gone for a school picnic. While playing, she got lost in the forest. In the forest, she came across several people but she didn’t feel comfortable asking them for help, as she had never spoken to people other than her family before. She tried to search her way out but only got deeper into the forest. Tired, she fell asleep under a tree. When she woke up, she saw her parents and teachers who had managed to find her with the help of some locals. Out of joy, she wanted to scream "mamma" but no words came out from her mouth despite her best efforts. Her parents and teachers got worried and immediately took her to the doctor. The doctor asked her to show her tongue. But when she opened her mouth, lo and behold, Tina’s tongue was missing! Tina was very sad and started weeping silently.
Next day, Tina’s tongue came and sat on her windowsill and said hello. Tina was surprised to see this sight. Through gestures, she asked her tongue the reason for leaving her. Her tongue replied “Tina, you were blessed with a tongue but you didn’t make proper use of it. You didn’t speak to anyone other than your family. You didn’t answer questions in class. You didn’t use me even in your hour of need. So I thought I can be of use to some unfortunate child, who doesn’t have a tongue but would love to speak.” Tina realised her mistake. She promised her tongue that she would change. Her tongue agreed to forgive Tina and returned back to her mouth.
From that day onwards, Tina started greeting known people, making new friends and answering questions in class. Tina and her tongue lived happily ever after.

According to Felicia Nazareth, a child is just like an uncut diamond. Just like a diamond, it is very important to shape a child’s life in such a way, so as to let him/her grow into a wonderful person.

I realised the true meaning of this only through the experiences that I had as a parent.

When my daughter, Aditi was 4 years old and we would take her for any family function, relatives would come and try to start a conversation with her. I noticed that the same Aditi who was talkative at home would be shy and hide behind me. She would just refuse to answer any question that was being asked. After such an incident I would realise that I need to work on her social skills and would encourage her to speak to people other than the family. For that, I would Google "how to increase social skills in a 4-year-old." 3 years passed in this way, discovering and identifying areas which I need to work on Aditi to shape her into a better person. So it was parenting which helped me develop a deep interest in the concept of life skills.

 I have recently joined my husband, Corporate Behavioral Trainer, Amey Hegde in the field of life skills training for adults. Due to my various experiences with Aditi, I am keenly interested in conducting sessions on life skills for kids too.

But what are life skills?
In simple words, life skills are the skills we need to deal effectively with the challenges of everyday life.

According to the WHO, Life skills fall into 3 basic categories:
1. Coping and self-management skills - which are skills to manage self.
2. Interpersonal and communication skills - which are social skills needed while interacting with others.
3. Critical thinking and decision making skills -Which are thinking related skills.

Let us explore the benefits of each category of life skills:
Self-management skills help you know your strengths and weaknesses, increase your self-confidence, help in managing your feelings, help in stress management and goal setting.

Let's take the case of Tina and Meena. Both are exposed to the same pressure related to studies, but Meena who is able to use self-management skills like time management skills, relaxation techniques, and positive thinking is able to cope with stress better than Tina, who didn’t have these skills.

Second, we have social skills which help to develop effective communication, empathy and active listening skills needed for relationship building.

Let's talk about 2 sisters, Anita and Neeta, who had to change their school frequently due to their father's job transfer. Anita was able to make friends more easily and adjust faster as she had good social skills such as communication, listening, empathy etc. whereas Neeta found it difficult to adjust as she lacked social skills.

One of my friends Pooja complains that when she is speaking to her son, Karan she finds him looking at the wall or at the floor or into his mobile/tab/laptop and Pooja feels that she is talking to the walls and Karan gets a shouting for not listening. On the other hand, if Karan had listened attentively with eye contact and nodding his head, Pooja would have felt listened to and felt good.

Third, we have critical thinking and decision making skills which help in problem-solving and taking better decisions.

Let's take the case of Ram and Shyam. While choosing a  career, Ram who has critical thinking and decision making skills will analyse all the options available and evaluate them carefully before coming to a final decision of choosing the stream he wants to join.
On the other hand, Shyam may take an impulsive decision influenced by media and peers.

Let's talk about 2 friends Neeta and Geeta. Neeta wants to buy all the new things in the market as she is influenced by the advertising and marketing campaigns on TV. On the other hand, Geeta analyses, evaluates, uses her critical thinking and decision-making skills and makes the right choices.

Amey and I have come up with a framework for the holistic development of children which will serve as a foundation for our year-long program for kids. While coming up with our framework, in addition to the life skills identified by WHO, we took inputs from Daniel Goleman's model of Emotional Intelligence and the competencies identified by CASEL, the leading organization in the US for the teaching of social and emotional skills. We also included values, good habits, civic sense and care for the environment.

When we decided to give a shape to our framework guess what was the first shape that came to our mind?
Yes, it was a diamond!

To reveal the brilliance within the child we just need to guide the child to shed unwanted habits and polish various facets of the child's personality, allowing the child’s true potential to emerge. 

Which country is the world's top diamond polisher? Yes, it's India. We Indians are already skilled in polishing diamonds.

I wish all parents luck in polishing the young minds that are our world's real diamonds.